Helping Employees Coping
With the Pain of Traumatic Event Anniversaries
Anniversaries of traumatic events can cause anxiety,
depression, or sadness for employees. As an EAP staffer, you may be sought out by workers for support during an anniversary of a traumatic event they experienced in the past.
These anniversary effects
around the date or season
when a loved one has passed, an assault occurred, or an accident happened, or possibly a local or
national tragedy visited a community, can leave employees in a troubled state where EAP support is crucial to workplace productivity and restoration of mental well-being.
According to the American Psychological Association (APA), reliving
this grief is natural, but the healing process can be different for everyone. As
an employee, you may find it challenging to work or lack the motivation to
complete your assignments. If you experience a difficult time when a painful
anniversary comes around, there are ways to ease your emotional distress.
Be Aware of the Events and Dates That Affect You
The Viva Center, Washington, D.C., recommends identifying
the events that cause emotional stress to help you plan and navigate those
times more easily. Are the holidays difficult for you because a loved one died
during that season, or does September 11th trigger your anxiety over
the terrorist attacks? Whatever the
event or date, being aware that you may need support during that time will help
you seek it beforehand to lessen the effects.
Seek Support From Loved Ones
As the anniversary date approaches, find friends, family
members, or close co-workers you can talk to and who are good listeners. Sharing
your memories of the event and your feelings may help relieve some of your
pain. If you find it hard to discuss your feelings with anyone, just spending time
with loved ones also can help bring you comfort.
Find a Way to Honor the Anniversary
Commemorating the anniversary may also be healing. Consider honoring a loved one by planting a
tree or donating to a charity they embraced. Look for community events to
attend in remembrance of victims of a tragedy that spurs your sadness. Depending
on the circumstance, your workplace may help you honor the anniversary. Whatever
you find appropriate and comforting is the best way to mark the date.
Avoid Media Reports If the Event Is in the News
If the local or national media cover the anniversary of the traumatic
event, try to avoid news reports during that time. Seeing the images and
reading the accounts of what occurred that day may only heighten your anxiety.
However, some people find comfort in remembering the victims of a tragic event and
knowing they are not alone in feeling sad.
Take Care of Yourself
Self-care is essential during these emotional periods. Remaining
healthy is key to helping you deal with emotional challenges. Make sure to get
enough sleep. Avoid overeating and alcohol and drugs. Take walks in the park, ride
your exercise bike, or go to the gym like you usually do.
Focus on Activities That Keep Your Mind Occupied
According to the APA, keeping busy doing things you enjoy
will help keep your mind off the traumatic event. Activities can include
whatever you find fun or comforting, perhaps reading, hiking, knitting, bike
riding, or hobbies.
How EAP Can Help You Through This Difficult Time
Sometimes you may need professional care to navigate through
the pain and depression. The anniversary of a traumatic event may be one of those
times. Contact your workplace’s Employee Assistance Program, whose
representatives can help find you the support you need, whether from a
therapist, a psychologist, or other licensed professional. Your workplace
recognizes that employees sometimes need help, and EAP is there to offer it.
